Egotism and judgment

QUESTION: Masters, in a recent reading I was told that my constant ‘comparisons and jealousies’ are preventing me from being in a higher state of consciousness. I feel ‘stuck’ by this state of being and am unable to come out of this. When and where and how did I become that jealous person and most importantly how do I transform myself so that I can move on? Please help as this is tormenting me! ~Mona, UK

ANSWER: The default energy for humans on your third-dimensional planet, which is defined as half negative and half positive, is to use judgment to determine how well you are doing relative to the rest of the population. The basis of ego is “I am better than you.” And if, heaven forbid, you find yourself lacking when measured up against others, then you become jealous of their position. You were raised in this environment.

This is the standard behavior on your planet. Higher consciousness requires rising above this positive / negative balancing act, choosing to relinquish the negative and exist only in the positive. If you are only being positive, you do not see the negative and therefore cannot judge that you are better or worse than someone else. You are in unconditional self-love and therefore love where you are and the process of getting there and have no desire to be anyone else—therefore no jealousy.

You are stuck because you don’t believe you have the freedom to choose to change your habits. To become judgment free—that is, seeking to live your life without judging yourself or others—you must remove negativity from your life. When there is only positive energy near you, your life becomes a choice of engaging in an activity or leaving it to others.

Anytime you find yourself making a judgment about the actions of another, stop and go into observation mode. Their behavior is neither right nor wrong; it is just part of their lessons. Evaluate if their situation is something you would like to learn from, or if it is not for you. You have just removed yourself from making a judgment.

Honor every soul’s right to have a series of lessons that vary from your own. Don’t think less of yourself because you didn’t choose the same path. Concentrate on living your life and learning from your experiences and let others do the same. You will find the comparisons and jealousies fade away and you will be able to love yourself more deeply.