Love one way
QUESTION: Masters, I discovered that my husband cheated on me during our marriage. When I uncovered this, his affair already had finished but he preferred to leave me, even after I had forgiven him. I feel that our story is not over yet. I love him dearly and want him back. We have 3 children. Is it possible? ~Carla, Brazil
ANSWER: Your husband is a very sexually needy person. He cannot stop himself from chasing after women. He does not want to tell you that he will be faithful when he knows he is unable to do that, which resulted in his decision to leave you and the children in the first place. He has some feelings for you just as you do for him; however, though yours are exclusive, his are not. He is making his choices just as you are yours.
You have done well working on your life lessons. You accepted that your husband’s actions had nothing to do with you, so you were able to forgive him for betraying you without assigning any guilt to yourself. You know how strong you are and that you have freedom of choice in all things. You need to continue to honor your own power. Do not give it away to anyone in exchange for promises that might be made.
He will continue to be in your life because he is the father of your children. He doesn’t want anything tying him down right now. He may change his mind in the future, but for now there is no chance he will seek to get back together with you. Go on with your own life. You can search for someone who will treat you with respect. Maybe you will find someone with whom you can share your dreams and life. Don’t hold onto memories that may never be repeated.