Saving another
QUESTION: Masters, my youngest brother has been a drug addict for many years, and he has caused a lot of grief and harm to himself and our father. My father and I believe that he is the incarnation of my grandfather and he has a lot to figure out. My father had a dream in which my brother was given a lethal injection, and then he held him in his arms like a baby. I have told my father that perhaps it is time to let my brother go, because I fear that father gets tired too. I know that my brother makes his own decisions in his life, but can we help him somehow? Can we speak to his guides, and heal with love? What about my father? ~Juha, FINLAND
ANSWER: You are correct that each soul chooses its own path—most call it destiny. Your brother has chosen a very difficult set of lessons for this lifetime. Your father and the other members of the family were in on his soul contracts because his actions affect all of you. The primary lesson for the members of the family is that you cannot control others, or even get them to do what you want, unless they are willing to make a choice along the line of your desires.
It is very difficult to just sit and watch loved ones apparently destroying their life, but that is what you have to do until they make the decision to change direction. Another of your father’s lessons is to learn to let go. He is not responsible for the choices his son has made. It is common for parents to blame themselves for the actions of their children. Once children become adults, parents must learn to step back and shift the responsibility to them. That is the only way they will learn. Always trying to bail them out facilitates the negative behavior by appearing to condone the actions.
Your brother is not your grandfather reincarnated, but he does have a lot of lessons to work through. You can give him your love with the intention that he will figure out what he needs to learn. Make your love “tough love,” the kind that says, “I will listen, but I will not let you drag me into your destructive ways.”
He is not listening to his guides at present but they are there, ready to assist when asked. It will help to send him healing energy to understand what he needs to do in order to get out of his vicious cycle. As for your father, help him understand that the decisions are all your brother’s, and your father cannot help him by trying to support or interfere with his decisions. The best course of action is to force your brother to be alone in the decision-making process.