Unrequited love

QUESTION: Masters, I have met a person who I feel is one of my soul mates. We have the same birth charts, personality, and similar negative traits. I feel he is my negative part of reflection and from my primary soul group. We are attracted physically, emotionally very intense, but he doesn’t want to accept that he feels for me, only he sometimes talks about physical intention. He said he can’t accept me as a partner and I can’t get this person off my mind. I am tired of hurt and pain and this makes me question why he can’t accept me despite a strong connection. I don’t know how to move on. I am trying to be kind to myself but why he is so rigid. ~Vini, India

ANSWER: To repeat ourselves from many different types of lessons we have been asked about: It is impossible to get another person to do anything he/she does not want to do. All people have the freedom of choice to choose what to do with their life. This extends to what they will believe, feel, and allow into their life.

You are a very needy person who is living in a dream illusion. You are fixated on this individual and are creating a world around all aspects of what you think him to be. He does not feel romantically inclined toward you. He thinks it might be interesting to become physically involved with you but it will never go any further than that. He is receiving satisfaction from the intensity of your longing for him. It is almost a form of idol worship.

There are a limited number of possible birth charts, personality traits, and life characteristics. The combination that you have commented on can be found in hundreds of different men. Go and find another who will sense the same attraction toward you and be overjoyed to have you in his life. You are trying to attract an unavailable man; go after an available one.

All the pain and hurt you feel is there because you allow it to be. You cannot be hurt unless you believe you deserve to be. You have no love for yourself; therefore, when you do not receive love from outside, you bring pain and hurt in to fill the abyss. Question yourself as to why you don’t love, or even like, yourself right now.

Start looking at all the fantastic qualities you have as a piece of Source. You are all powerful, magnificent, loving, and composed of unconditional love. Let the love shine through. Then send out the energy to attract someone who will be mutually attracted to you.