Archive for August, 2019

Reality check

Tuesday, August 20th, 2019

QUESTION: Masters I know you can’t tell me what to do but I really need advice. My marriage has not been good for a long time. We bumble along going through the motions but recently I have become aware that my husband really seems to be a compulsive liar. He actually lies like a child would. I feel like I’ve been played from the beginning. Our 30th anniversary is soon, and I just feel depressed about it. I have lost all my Joie de Vivre and l will admit to being scared to leave as I’m in such a rut. I acknowledge my own part in our current circumstances, but I honestly feel that he never really felt love for me nor I, him as we were so young and naive. ~Caroline, Ireland

ANSWER: You both started out creating a fantasy world to your liking. You each convinced yourself that what you had was exactly what you thought life should be like. When your husband told you something, you heard only what you wanted to hear, never questioning what was actually being said. Living in your own world you couldn’t be affected by his.

Your lives have been on parallel paths during your marriage but not on the same roadway, which has allowed you to exist as a couple and seem to be compatible to others. Don’t fault yourself for this predicament because it is the way a vast majority of relationships play out. Most individuals just never become aware of the gap between their vision and their partner’s.

Communication is the great awareness tool, but few people impartially examine what is being said. It is hard to justify the reality you have created for yourself if you must also see what those around you perceive as the shared truth of the situation. Complicating talking to one another are the emotions you bring to the mix.

At a young age, infatuation overcomes a meeting of the minds and appears to be true love. You both loved each other to the extent your lack of experience provided. In point of fact, if you look back, you will see you really didn’t have that much in common. You had no foundation upon which to build a lasting relationship, and ignoring what you sensed about your husband is the only thing that has kept you together this long. 

It is now time to honor yourself. What is it that would satisfy you on a daily basis? How can you find out what your truth is, and how can you live it? You will remain in your rut only if you choose to do so. You have used your creativity all these years; now use it to create a life of your own, whether you remain in the marriage or not. Forget the past – it will be an anchor preventing you from moving forward.

Relationships

Tuesday, August 20th, 2019

QUESTION: Masters, I find the relationship I have with my father very confusing. Sometimes I feel like he’s hugely controlling. Sometimes I feel like he’s massively helping me. And because of the latter I tend to not understand or am able to process the former. Part of me thinks he’s a master manipulator, part of me thinks he’s just trying to be a good Dad. I’m being very careful not to put my own emotions into this because they have gone from love to rage with regards to him. There was a time about 10 years ago or more when I was advancing spiritually very quickly, and it was almost as if he sensed it and threw up such an emotional storm for me that I had to stop. With your help I’d like to understand what I hoped to learn from my father coming into this life. ~Steven, UK

ANSWER: You chose your father to be the center of a circular life. Everything has revolved around him pulling you in and not allowing you to go outside his influence without deciding to be dragged back in rather than letting go. Family has been a part of your identity which you have given controlling force over decision making.

Societal definitions of the relationship and obligations a son “owes” to his father have played a major role in your behavior. The parts you each chose are not typical. In the incidents where he has been massively helpful, he has been a teacher, a best friend, and a guide, not a father. He thrives on control and manipulation, which you have believed is a part of a father’s role. However, that is not normally the case – it is a part of his life lesson only.

When you talk about your emotions, you are actually referring to the emerging acceptance of your inner essence. It appears as an intuition about the choices you have if you don’t let the father-son relationship make you think you have no choice. The love/rage dichotomy is the positive/negative solution to a life lesson.

His reaction to your spiritual journey reflected his fear that you would cut the bonds of his influence in accepting your own path. Spirituality is all about oneself, why you are here, and what you have to learn. It is a solo endeavor, and another’s influence only prevents growth.

What you came to learn is when you are fulfilling your own freedom of choice vs. when you are giving it up to your father under the guise of responsibility. The journey is yours alone.

Masters connections

Tuesday, August 20th, 2019

QUESTION: Masters could you please clarify if “people” like Osho, Eckhart Tolle, Mooji, Adyashanti, Rupert Spira, Ramana Maharshi, and those who are “enlightened”. During their teachings, do they receive assistance from the spirits on the Other Side of the veil with messages? Or are just messages from their higher self/consciousness? Could you please explain how this process works when people realized the self and become teachers? Who Neale Donald [Walsch] heard while writing the books, God or the other side of the veil? I’m curious if any of my guides are realized masters? ~Frank, Canada

ANSWER: A master as defined in spirituality is a soul who is having a physical experience and brings with them, or has reached a state of becoming enlightened in, one or more aspects of the physical behavior available to the soul while existing in a physical state which unite them with their true essence as a piece of Source energy.

When they bring the wisdom with them, they reconnect with it through their higher self, or with the assistance of their guides if they planned on needing help. If their enlightenment comes during their awakening to their true identity as a soul, it starts with the search for who and what they are.

Souls are not born enlightened. They generally start with observing what has brought other humans to that state. They explore the philosophies that have been accepted as working to produce understanding in others and begin practicing the same activities to see what influence they have in their own lives. Sometimes a practice will stimulate their own experiences from past lives, and other times it will not trigger a condition of enlightenment; they then move on to what has worked for someone else.

Once a person has moved away from all ego and entered into positive unconditional love, they are ready to exist in the state of Source energy. Their guides and other masters on the Other Side will provide assistance but only when they are asked.

Humans who become teachers have many different sources. Some go through phases where they battle with their egos, and what they proclaim is from their imaginings and not their connection with positive energy alone. Others, after starting their journeys through their practice of other people’s processes, work with the energies from the Other Side to assist as many souls as possible in reestablishing connections to self.

There is no simple answer to your question because for every soul there is a different process based on the choices they make. When it comes to guides who are masters, anyone has access to all the masters simply by asking – you included.