Masters of the Spirit World

QUESTION: Masters, thanks so much for the guidance. I know I have chosen a very difficult path for me regarding romantic relationships (or the lack of them). I understand that we choose our own lessons before we come to Earth, but what happens when we (as humans) would rather not experience it anymore because it is too difficult? I have been reading answers in this website, but it seems that the only way of changing circumstances is by learning our lessons and growing. I have been doing a lot of self-work for years, but my singlehood has not changed. I appreciate the positive changes in my life, but I am really overwhelmed with doing this growth thing and things have not changed at all which is discouraging. I want a great relationship. Could you please shed some light on whether we can change our own soul’s plan? ~Nivea, Brazil

ANSWER: Since you have total freedom of choice, you can change the way your life plays out as long as you are not interfering with one of the major life lessons from that lifetime. For instance, if you wanted to be an opera singer but your vocal cords could not vibrate in a way that was pleasing to others, you would not be able to accomplish that. The lesson in such a situation would be that you wanted to learn what disappointment felt like and find other abilities that satisfied your cravings.

Part of your desire for a partner is so that you have someone else to make decisions for you. You want to shift responsibility for some aspects of life to another, because you feel this is the way life should be as constantly extolled by society. Well, your major lesson is to assume responsibility for life, to find a way to be totally independent of all others. You have not reached that step because you feel you are not complete until you have a partner sharing the load, and that is contrary to your lesson.

You have choices and can change direction at any time. You can freeze-frame your life where it is and not continue working on your lessons, or you can move ahead since you already know what your desired purpose was in this lifetime. Either approach is possible.

Stopping the forward movement would not necessarily accomplish what you want – a partner – because the energy around you would be one of defeat, and who gets attracted to a loser? First understanding what it is like to be independent does not prevent you from then gathering a sharing partner who will want to share your completed accomplishment with you.

QUESTION: Masters, I came through a very difficult divorce and have done much work on myself. It has helped much. I am also becoming independent and strong enough to look after my 3 young children. I am positive minded and generally very happy and optimistic. My question is – I have been putting out the energy for a compatible partner as well as a rewarding job that is able to give me full financial independence. I have been projecting it with manifestation skills and techniques for few years. I still have not found anyone and my job’s pay is average. What am I not doing, or doing, that is blocking this manifestation? ~Julie, UK

ANSWER: You are attempting to influence too many things about your life all at the same time so that the energy you are expending is insufficient to bring the desired response. One day the inner desire for companionship is so strong that it is the only message that gets sent – but it goes out a little garbled since, when you think about a mate, your past marital difficulties discolor the beauty of your thoughts and the possibilities available.

When you are able to take care of things financially, money doesn’t bother you too much until there is something extra you would like to provide for your children or the household, and then the meagerness of your income hits home. You then start putting more effort into bringing in better employment opportunities, taking away energy directed toward romance.

If these were not such all-encompassing factors in your life, you would be able to juggle both of them at once. But since they are both so enormous, you are going to have to work on them one at a time. Decide which is more vital to changing your status and then dedicate your time and effort in that direction.

It is possible to accomplish both of these manifestations when you properly apply the right effort. You have accomplished so much that you know it is possible to bring change into your world; just don’t try to rush it. Your plate is very full right now with family, work, and other responsibilities; establish a priority list of what will have the largest impact on your life.

QUESTION: Masters, is there anything I can do to help my daughter come to terms with the way her father is? He abandoned his two daughters when they were 15 and 17. The 15-year-old later took her life, largely I believe because the abandonment caused her to develop a mental illness. My older daughter still needs her father, but he is self-absorbed, selfish and self-centered. I do not want retribution against him, because I don’t want to be sucked into the cycle of karma. But can I help my daughter in some way? ~Luci, Australia

ANSWER: There is no way to get another to do something they do not wish to do. This applies to both your daughter and her father. As you know the only thing of any importance to him is himself. He never wanted children, except to prove his manhood, and doesn’t see that he has any responsibility toward them.

Since he never understood what love was, he doesn’t understand why his almost adult daughter needs to have anything to do with him. Your daughter sees part of her identity as “his daughter” and feels neglected and worthless because of his rejection. He is not actively rejecting her; he just doesn’t care or even think about her.

You could help your daughter by assisting her to see that there is nothing lacking in her; it is her father who doesn’t have the maturity, or interest, to see what effects his separation causes. She needs to decide that what he can provide for her will not help her at all but only cause heartache and depression.

You can point out that his lessons this lifetime are about selfishness, and not needing another soul. He wanted to see if he could work through and discover the joy and satisfaction of working and needing others. He has not gotten anywhere near that point and probably will not in this lifetime.

Help your daughter value herself and learn what a fantastic person she is. Let her turn that sense of loss into sharing with others who will reciprocate love.