Archive for May 30th, 2017

The role of soul mates

Tuesday, May 30th, 2017

QUESTION: Masters, me and my ex broke up 2 years ago. I was told by a psychic that he was going to leave me, but she also told me that we were soulmates and that he was going to come back. I’m now with someone else whom I love dearly, I feel spiritually connected, we have a beautiful baby girl and I don’t intend to leave him ever. My ex won’t leave me alone, he keeps texting from time to time asking to get back together. I feel apathetic towards him, and completely in love with my husband. How does faith works? What if the psychic is right? I love my husband, and I feel way more connected to him, than I ever felt to my ex. What role do they play in my life? ~Miamite, France

ANSWER: Soul mate is the term that signifies the souls who were broken off from Source at or near the time that you were. Your soul group includes the 72 or so immediately before you and the 72 or so immediately after you. As you can surmise from this total of 144, the mere fact that they are soul mates is not determinative of their significance within a particular life. Yes, you do recognize the energy pattern of these individuals and may have planned to spend your life with them – or maybe just to meet them and then move on.

Frequently a soul mate has agreed to help you with a lesson you wished to learn, such as sharing a romantic love with them. Learning about discernment, regarding your own feelings, and the aspects of someone trying to control you also may be factors.

From this soul mate, you have understood that his path in this life is not something you wish to share. Your husband has taught you how a true communicative sharing relationship brightens and enhances this physical existence.

You have no obligation to your ex. He did not understand the dysfunctional match you endured. He only feels your happiness at this time and wants to become a part of it. Block his phone from contacting yours.

A psychic completely connected to spirit can tell you only what each person’s plans  are at the time of the reading. When you got the reading, you were beginning to respect and honor yourself and knew you had to flee the marriage, so your psychic  saw you leaving. She read the character of your ex and saw that he was manipulative and selfish and would want you back if you ended up balanced without him.

Faith is what you have in yourself when you rely on your intuition and feelings. You know what is right for you because the energy resonates within. The psychic was correct, but she said only that he would come back, not that he would be successful with his desire. Release your anxiety and enjoy your beautiful family.

 

Demanding parents

Tuesday, May 30th, 2017

QUESTION: Masters I am a grown woman with kids. However, I have a mother that is extremely clingy and demanding and wants me to visit and stay with her all the time. If I do not visit at least once a week she gets very sulky, angry and upset. I have explained constantly to her that with kids, work, and study I can’t always be there for her but she is selfish and doesn’t care. My husband wants to move to another state, but she gets furious and angry even when I mention this possibility. She is 92 and in very good health, so I feel guilty and pressured to be there for her. I understand she is being selfish but I can’t help feeling guilty. Though I do try to not pander to her. Is this a past life karmic relationship? And how can I best deal with it. ~Lola, Australia

ANSWER: You are allowing yourself to be manipulated, controlled, badgered, and intimidated. You owe this woman, who just happens to be called your mother, nothing. Think back over your lifetime during all the circumstances when she could have been beneficial to you and chose not to help because it was inconvenient for her. Looking at your life, why do you feel guilty? You have never done anything to generate those feelings.

Age does not bestow the privilege to dictate to others. Granted, she is lonely right now, but mostly that is of her own doing. She has not ingratiated herself with others with whom she could share her time. She figures she has you at her beck and call, so why should she seek out anyone else?

Do not let her control your life. Your purpose in life is to provide for your family and grow them into caring, loving individuals. Seeing you catering to an ungrateful mother is not setting a very good example for them.

Your husband’s desire to move is based on the future of his family. While he understands your mother’s desire to be the center of your universe, she should not be, and it frustrates him that you give in so easily. This is a lesson for you in discerning the importance of each aspect of your life. You are not honoring or loving yourself. You have freedom of choice. Don’t let others make your choices for you.

This is not “karmic” as you call it because that would imply that it is a punishment. This is a lesson in self-worth and understanding character issues such as guilt, obligation, allowing others to control, and being true to your own path in life.

Given up on life

Tuesday, May 30th, 2017

QUESTION: Masters I’m 48. I had my share of trials and struggles. Enlightenment was the ultimate answer to the tribulations of life. I have already had the experience of the Self and desperately sought to regain it. I even went to India to meet a “satguru” but come back feeling more inadequate and depressed than ever. Now I know there is no shortcut to awakening, no “direct path” to Self-realization. It’s programmed. The worst with this spiritual quest is that I no longer have any interest in life, no motivation, no passion. I have difficulty to be grateful for all the benefits I have, seeing Existence like a deception, a burden. Not surprising that I now suffer from fibromyalgia. How can you expect to help, inspire others in this context? ~Mabel, Canada

ANSWER: Self-realization, enlightenment, awakening, or whatever you wish to call it, is not programmed into a soul who has chosen a human experience. Your soul chose to come into this negative environment to face the problems you have before you and to work through them by understanding what they represent.

Where you are having difficulty is being inflexible with the beliefs you have ingrained in yourself. Your experiences have not met the expectations that you are convinced are the only way to go through this life.

What does enlightenment mean to you? Since you followed a satguru, it must mean whatever this person, with their Eastern philosophical reasoning, defined as the only way to peace. That is an over-simplification that they would like you to believe so that you will be true to their beliefs. There is not a single way to do anything. There are no absolutes in the physical world.

Everyone must work out their direction in life. Following another will only show you how things worked for them – it may not be appropriate for even one other person. Your lessons include self-confidence and self-worth.

Examine those things which bring fear and doubt into your life. Delve into them and find why they have appeared. Understanding and ridding yourself of these is what enlightenment is for you. This is the true self-realization. It is the actual connecting to your soul. Doing for yourself is the only thing you came to Earth to complete. You have no obligation to inspire or help others unless you have succeeded on your own and then may have the time to show them how you did it.