Archive for January 13th, 2015

Finding the flow

Tuesday, January 13th, 2015

QUESTION: Masters I’ve lived a very structured life and I want to go with the flow more. I am ready to let loose more often and stop taking myself so seriously. But, I don’t know how and where to even begin. How do I become in tune with noticing the energies around me and how do I identify that energy? How do I notice the signs of what to open up to which will be positive for my soul’s journey? What is the difference between my imagination; meaning, what I want to believe in and, what is real; that I should follow or be open to? ~Maximiliana, USA

ANSWER: Behavior is determined by the belief systems you put in place to tell you what you should do based on what others have told you is correct. Structure is following your expectations of an outcome; it is very controlling behavior. It is necessary in certain positions in order to prevent chaos, but it doesn’t have to be a way of life.

When you are overly serious, you have the impression there is one, and only one, way to do things and you want to be right in your effort. Seriousness is the dominion of society’s ego, with judgment determining how you match up to everyone else. Everything is judged to be right or wrong.

“Being in the flow” is being a part of the pulse of life. It is feeling what you want to do, not thinking about what you should do based on others’ ideas. The “flow” is positive loving energy, while society is mostly negative competitive energy. The “flow” is stress free.

Start your journey by ridding yourself of as much judgment as you possibly can. Don’t think of things as right or wrong, just whether you want them in your life. Observe what others do – not judging, just evaluating if you wish to try what you see. Get rid of all expectations of the outcomes of your activities. When you start an activity, do it for the sheer fun or experience of the action.

Visualize yourself in balance with the universe, as a surf board floating peacefully on the ocean. Let yourself drift with the prevailing winds for they will direct you to things you wish, or need, to experience. Your soul, with the help of the universe, brings to you that which you desire to understand. The serenity you find yourself enjoying is the energy of the “flow.”

You create your own reality by the choices you make of the things and actions you want to be part of your life. At first you may need to imagine what you desire in your life until you have brought it to you; then reality takes over.

Set aside thinking and just feel. Don’t analyze – just live.

Daughter won’t grow up

Tuesday, January 13th, 2015

QUESTION: Masters please help me understand my daughter who runs away from all situations she finds challenging. She cannot keep a job. She seems very emotionally fragile one moment, then very argumentative and defensive the next. She is easily depressed and cannot always focus. She has made many bad decisions and we have had to financially support her and pay off debts, as a result. She threatens self-harm and suicide if we don’t help her. She is now on the other side of the world and asking daily for assistance. I don’t understand the woman she has become. I am afraid what will happen if she is cut off because in my heart, I don’t feel this is a normal situation. ~Milly Claire, Canada

ANSWER: Your daughter is stuck emotionally at about ten years of age. Her adult body makes her think she knows what she is doing. She is in a constant state of fear – fear that she will be forced to take responsibility for things beyond her desire or that she will have to be on her own.

She has responded to these fears by finding that she is capable of manipulating her parents into doing everything she chooses not to do, and you have gone along with her program. You have been facilitating her dependence on you by always coming to her rescue. Her philosophy has become: “Why try to understand life when I can get someone else to take care of everything for me?”

Yes, she has used her parents’ greatest fear: that something will happen to their precious child if they don’t capitulate to her demands – the old “I’ll harm myself” threat. Your daughter has been using some variation on this theme for years. And you, not wanting her harmed, have copied the fraternity initiate’s paddling request of his brothers: “Please, sir, may I have another?”

She is still the carefree child allowed to go out and play with no regard to having first done her homework or her chores. She is not living the life she planned before coming to Earth because she refuses to learn anything about her life lessons. If she does not at least start on the lessons, she will have to do them all over again in another life.

She is really spinning out of control lately and it is time to apply the brakes. If you want to salvage this lifetime for her, set some firm guidelines on her behavior. She has to make the decision to change; you can’t just tell her to do so. Communication, where you get your full message across without stopping for her histrionics, is the answer.

Life changes and decisions

Tuesday, January 13th, 2015

QUESTION:  Masters I am married with two kids and I feel happy with so much joy and blessings in my life. Every day I wake up and try to be a better person in this world. Learning with the obstacles and accepting everything that happens to me.  When I first met my husband, we were young and we used to be negative and selfish. But after some facts that impacted me so deeply I decided to change, now I see love in everywhere, in everyone, I really want to learn my lessons in this life. Then I look to my husband, he is also a better person but sometimes it seems that he wants to stay in a negative position about so many things. This makes me feel bad, tired, and hopeless. Please give me any advice. I love him but sometimes I see we are both going to opposite ways. ~Cnc, Brasil

ANSWER: Congratulations on all the successes with your journey. You have realized that people have freedom of choice to make the decisions that impact their life. The next big realization you see has been that no two people progress at exactly the same rate toward enlightenment.

Your husband clings to some of his old traits because it makes him comfortable with those in society with whom he has to deal. He is not as sensitive to positive and negative energy as you are. Negative energy is the default setting in third-dimensional ego judgment and he is just going along with “the boys.”

His way of looking at life can have an impact on you only if you allow it to. You have done nothing to encourage his choice so why do you feel bad, tired, and hopeless? These are not your decisions for life; accept that they are his and are what he needs right now at this time in his life. He is never going to be exactly like you or have the same feelings about a philosophy of living.

You both love each other, so the question becomes: can you put up with his outlook on life as long as it does not really affect you? Understand that his journey is different from yours, and just as having different racial or religious backgrounds does nothing to prevent a happy life, why should this?