Helping a mate
Wednesday, July 15th, 2009
QUESTION: Masters, please guide me on how to proceed with a very special relationship in my life. The man is troubled and caught in a web. How can I help him? Or should I walk away? ~Heena, Singapore
ANSWER: This relationship is special to you because you feel so needed. Your boyfriend is a very troubled individual who refuses to acknowledge the problems in which he finds himself involved. He will not take responsibility for his own actions but blames everyone else for what is happening. The web is of his own making.
The only way you can assist him is to try to get him to see what he is doing to himself. You do know that all the decisions are up to him. You cannot make him see anything that he will not open up his eyes to perceive. In this situation you are more just a witness validating his experiences for him then anything else.
You have on many occasions considered walking away, and that is a freedom of choice decision. You must consider what impact this situation is having on your growth and physical well-being. You must honor yourself, including analyzing what you could learn if you stayed and the lessons brought to you if you left.
