Ex-wife gets all attention

QUESTION: Masters, my husband continues to see his ex-wife and carry out work for her, but when it comes to our home, he neglects it. He does not give me any support when I need anything done for me. He considers her first. He spends most of his time with her. ~Ravena, UK

ANSWER: Hello! Are you really looking at this situation with your eyes open? Your husband still cares very deeply for his ex. You were just a replacement for her when she no longer wanted to have anything to do with him. Now that he shows her attention, she wants him back. When they were together before, he treated her as he is treating you now, doing for everyone but her.

Your husband has this fascination for things that he supposedly cannot or should not possess. He is not aware of anyone’s feelings but his own. He likes to have women fighting over him—it makes him feel important. He lacks confidence in himself, and one way for him to think he is great is to have others in competition for him, even if it is just his ability to fix things.

This is who he is and he is not going to change. You can accept that and carry on or you can exercise your freedom of choice and throw him out. You are a beautiful, loving soul; honor yourself and do not allow yourself to be abused in this fashion.