Understanding the process

QUESTION: Masters, I am 62 and feel I have experienced a move forward in my spirituality and open-mindedness in the last 2+ years. Last month, I was diagnosed with cancer and two weeks later, my husband was let go from his job. This is the fourth time he’s been let go from a job in the last 15 years. The previous times, I would fall apart and become very anxious and depressed. This time, even with the cancer, I’m handling it much better emotionally. Did I choose these circumstances? For what lessons? Am I calmer this time because I’ve advanced somewhat in my spirituality? ~Pam, United States

ANSWER: Everything a soul experiences is either because of choices they have made before coming to Earth, or concerning lessons they are currently undertaking. You chose to explore loss of control, anxiety, depression, self-doubt, and lack of self-confidence. You held a huge concern for the opinions of others and doubted your own intuition and knowledge.

Your husband is very laid back and unaffected by the opinions of others. He does not play well with others, and it appears as if he is constantly disrespecting people. Employers and co-workers put up with it for a while and then rebel and refuse to work with him any longer, hence he gets fired or laid off. His lack of concern for his situation has always played right into your lessons, resulting in panic for you.

As you have grown spiritually, you have come to realize that you create your own reality, and the way you respond to things is also your choice. You also believe that the universe will not give you more than you can handle at any one time. This gives you a sense that you have more control over your situation. You are much more relaxed, understanding your lessons and that you can create your reality by the choices you have made.

Your depression was a lack of any firm impression about your surroundings. You left that up to your husband and chance in the past, but you now take an active part in its creation. This is because you have thrown away your self-doubt and lack of self-confidence. Congratulations! These are all results of completing your lessons and moving ahead spiritually.