Getting another to understand you

QUESTION: Masters, I have recently moved away to another country after years of trying to settle in an extremely unhappy relationship. However, I have also made the choice to leave my children with their father while I set myself up. I have consciously tried to be in contact with my children’s essence during this process and I have always received love and positive motivation from them on that level regarding my decision. But as children they obviously feel strong emotions. My elder daughter has said that mum does not love her enough to stay and my younger one wishes to live with me. Could you help me get some insight on a human emotional level about how are they dealing with this? And guide me on how to communicate with them at this point to help them navigate this situation. ~Dolly, India

ANSWER: Each one of you involved in this situation had chosen to be presented with these facts. Of course, with amnesia, no one is consciously aware of that. Your daughters wanted to work on lessons of abandonment, guilt (feeling it’s partially their fault you have left), sadness, and helplessness.

Your lessons include self-love, self-confidence, and honoring your own journey. Even though you bore the children, your lessons are still yours and can only be dealt with by you. You do not have a spiritual obligation toward them. Most feel there is a society responsibility.

Right now, they are very confused and believe you do not love them or you wouldn’t have left them. You did not spend enough time explaining to them what you were going to do and why you felt you had to leave.

Talking to your daughters’ essences, or higher selves, will give you an idea only of what the soul understands – it does not give you the emotions of the human. Only direct conversations with each girl will give them an idea of what you are doing. You need to treat each one individually, not both as a set.

You will not be able to get a good read on how they are reacting to this change in their life until you speak face to face with them. It could be done over Skype or FaceTime.