Spirit contact at will

QUESTION: Masters, my Mum passed about 15 months ago. She had dementia and although I tried to be a good daughter, often I was intolerant and selfish. She was the most forgiving, loving person I’ve ever met, and I’ve been hoping for a sign or a message from her, to no avail. I don’t mean to be facetious, but would it hurt for me to see her or speak to her or feel her presence? My sister said she saw her dead cat so why can’t I see my mum? Would it be so awful for me to be reassured that she’s okay and forgives me? I can’t be the only person who feels like this. Can you say something about why contact is so difficult please? ~Karen, UK

ANSWER: First off, your Mum is great, having a good time with old friends. During the last period of her life she was not always, as you were aware, totally conscious within her body. That was all part of a life lesson for those around her. You learned quite a bit about yourself during that time – what you could tolerate and where your patience ended.

On a spiritual level nothing is right or wrong; all things are learning experiences.  You understand that your behavior at that time was not something of which you are proud. But it was created by the frustration of not having your loving Mum there to communicate with. Her soul observed but the body was unable to interact. She took no offense at anything that occurred during that time.

Now when it comes to spirit contact, you have to examine your expectations. They are keeping you from hearing/feeling your Mum. She has spent a lot of time near you, but you are looking for specific signs and she is unable to fulfill your desires. When a soul first returns Home, they sever all contact with the Earth plane and therefore enter into an amorphous, energetic state where they do not have a human-like body, so they have no voice box with which to speak.

That does not mean that they do not communicate; it is just more mentally than spoken. Instead of words you will receive “feelings.” They will be reminiscent of your Mum’s presence but not her voice. Remember the times she held you when you were upset? That is the sensation you will first perceive.

It is easiest to establish this connection as you are just falling asleep or as you awaken in the morning. Start the flow by greeting your Mum as if she were in the room with you – because she is. “Hi Mum, having a nice day?” “I remember the strength to face the day that you always gave me.” Don’t anticipate a specific response from her. Just be open to any sensations that roll over your body. Feel her arm wrap around you. That will be her.

If you have patience, avoid feeling frustrated, and continue doing these exercises, you will establish contact.