Creating a romantic fantasy

QUESTION: Masters starting a new job I met Chris and I felt like my heart chakra is overfilling with minty coolness. I observed interest but no more. Our paths crossed occasionally, and I have noticed his gaze, but he was constantly avoiding staying in same room with me. When our eyes met it felt like there is a strong energy developing, I could hardly hook off it. I keep seeing this person in my dreams, they are becoming more romantic with time. I have been in a romantic relationship with someone else and I believe, I have let this go. I feel like he is one of my soulmates. I would like to know if this is past life connection or this is something else. Will I meet my life partner in this life after all romantic experiences I had and the way I am now? ~Maija UK

ANSWER: You have intimidated the poor man and he is frightened of your intent and what you might demand of him. His initial interest was just in learning who the new employee was – nothing more. He feels your intensity and he wants nothing to do with it; that is why he never stays in the same area with you.

In the meantime, you have built up a fantasy about your relationship. You are not soul mates and have never spent previous lives together. Sometimes someone just tickles your fancy so much you create a world that does not exist – this is what you have been doing.

He seems safe and wonderful to you because you have never spent any time together so you can’t see that he is not compatible with you. Your dreams are like the ones envisioned around a handsome famous person whom you feel you just have to make yours. Stop wasting time on a person who is not interested.

This is different from prior love experiences because it has been all one-sided. You are a slave to your imagined expectations of a partnership. It is time to take a good look at the way you have been behaving and understand that a relationship takes two actively participating individuals.