Shaped by the past

QUESTION: Masters, my spouse is very loving and a tender lover but our problem is that he cannot get physical satisfaction without imaging me making love with someone else. I feel very sad and hurt about it because I am quite romantic woman. He tells me that he has always had this problem. Why is he like that? Has he had some experiences in some previous life that has made him to be like he is. He says that he loves me but he also says that he would be very excited if he would find out that I had made love to some other man. I feel very hurt about thoughts like that. Is there a way to solve this problem? ~Maria, Finland

ANSWER: Your husband suffers from a lack of self-confidence and worth. He feels he does not deserve you but can vicariously get satisfaction by being a voyeur watching you with someone else. This is a continuing problem from past and current lives.

In a past life he was disfigured and no woman would let him touch her. He set up a watching position where he could observe women being pleasured in a whorehouse he owned, and that was the only satisfaction he received. In this life, his subconscious imagines he is repugnant to you and therefore he envisions a replacement that would better suit you as a lover.

He will not be able to change unless he confronts these beliefs he has so ingrained within him. A good start would be revisiting his past life through hypnosis and realizing that he is not the person he was in that life. Exploring his problems with confidence issues and self-worth will also allow him to see his beliefs in a different light.

Do not think that he has any idea how severely his actions are affecting you. He would never consciously do anything to cause you discomfort, but he is unable to be comfortable in a normal relationship. He can understand all the implications of his wayward beliefs if you talk to him and help him get a realistic idea of his actions.