Must I be in a relationship?
QUESTION: Masters, I feel like relationships aren’t for me. I have had only one serious relationship and my last one two years ago ended fast. I don’t feel like I can actually be with anybody. Is it ok to be alone? Do I have to find somebody? I used to want someone but now I enjoy being alone instead. ~Emma, Australia
ANSWER: All souls have freedom of choice, but they don’t realize it if they are unaware of what the potential choices are. In order for a society to exist it must propagate itself, and in order to do that the male and female populations must mate and increase. These are beliefs that are ingrained in all humans as they are being raised. You must have a mate; you must produce children for the continuation of society.
This belief is like all the other ones instilled in you since birth. Listen to your elders because they always know what to do; don’t talk to strangers – they may be predators; treat even the bad people the way you would like to be treated; you will be rewarded for your good deeds and doing as you are expected. These beliefs stick with you until you analyze them and see that they may not be the way you wish to live, so you discard some and change others. This is the recognition of your choices in life.
Not all souls come to the planet to have romantic relationships. Some are on a path of exploration of what they alone can do without committing to unions that prevent them from being able to do whatever and whenever they want. You have no obligation to have a partner, to get married, or to have children in this lifetime. You have done it in many past lives, and this time you wished to experience living on your own.
You are accepting responsibility for your choices and learning from them. You are not being hindered in your decisions by an obligation to a spouse. There are no rules in a spiritual sense. Right now you need your independence to fulfill your goal of finding out who you are as a person. Don’t let other people’s beliefs try to control your life. Be yourself, and honor the fact that you can and are doing just that.
Create whatever type of reality you desire. Know you have the ability to change it at any time that you feel a need. Enjoy life, embrace your journey.