Reading sexual attraction
QUESTION: Masters a few days ago, I met a wonderful man – loving, honest and truthful. We could be with each other only for 2 days. I sensed between us closeness and silence and love that I haven’t felt elsewhere, apart from mutual attraction. Within this extremely short span of time, we were faced with extremely difficult choices and emotions as he felt committed elsewhere. I wish to what was the purpose of this meeting? Was what we felt between us merely sexual attraction? Are these feelings mutual? Have we known each other before? ~Bodhi, India
ANSWER: You had a very strong sexual attraction to this man. You are a romantic at heart and saw it as an answer to your prayers for a loving, fulfilling relationship. You immediately began to dream of a lifetime together because this contact made you feel so good. Nothing had ever been this intense before, so you convinced yourself that it was something you had planned for this life.
For the man, it was also a response to his sexual attraction and really nothing more. This man is in a committed relationship and has no desire to leave it. When he found you so willing to follow your attraction to each other, he took full advantage of it even though he knew he did not want it to interfere with his current partnership.
You went into this affair pulled by your emotions and girlhood dreams of a fairy tale union. He was spurred on by a bout of sexual frustration that he had to satisfy. His thoughts were for releasing his tension and having fun with a very willing and attractive person.
He does not love you as you have convinced yourself that you do him, but he would have no problems carrying on together with you whenever you find yourselves in a same situation as this one. It would never result in a permanent, committed relationship.
This lesson for you was to be able to discern reciprocated true love from infatuation and sexual attraction – to analyze and differentiate the actual occurrence from a dreamlike desire. In a spiritual sense, this was an acknowledgement that the human body has certain needs that it is best to meet rather than always be left with frustration.