Lack of interest in life
QUESTION: Masters, I lately have come to believe that I have no purpose in this particular life. I feel I have achieved nothing, have no relationships, no close family, no partners or friends. Is there anything still waiting for me? I do not know how to motivate myself for anything and have lost interest in all and everyone around me. Why would I have chosen this way of life? I don’t feel as if I’ve learnt anything or taught anyone. Why should I even bother to carry on? ~Jack, Australia
ANSWER: You have always been the first one to follow the leader and to take advantage of the advice and instructions of family, teachers, and friends. This has been a very safe life because you have never had to be responsible for the outcome of any of the decisions made by others that you followed. Consequently, as each of these leaders has found other interests, you find yourself alone and without an idea of how to start making decisions or friendships, or where to go with your life.
When you step up and make choices for yourself, you are vested in the outcome and take notice of everything that is happening. When someone else is driving, you have no idea where you are or what you must do next. This life is about understanding that all the choices have to be yours in order for you to truly accomplish your goals for your journey through this human existence.
You chose these lessons and this way of life to see if you could find a path that integrated you into life in general and provided a direction for your future. Could you learn to make informed decisions that taught you about yourself?
Nothing that happens on Earth is right or wrong. You can hang up on your life if you choose, but then you really would have learned nothing during this whole time. You can also stop feeling sorry for yourself, stop sitting on the sidelines, and step into the fray of living.
First take an inventory of things that interest you. Is there any one of them that would provide for your needs? Start talking to people to see if you have anything in common with them. Mingle with others and really listen to what they have to say about the way they cope with life – not to follow their path directly, but to see how choices are made. Then step up to the plate and take a big swing at living.