Never satisfied

QUESTION: Masters, Recently I came across a man in my life who seemed perfect in many ways. I enjoy being with him, he is sweet and respectful but some part of me still maintains a doubt. My family also has its doubts. There are things about him which also make me loathe about furthering the relationship with him even though he sometimes seems to want to. Should I allow him a chance? Is he the person I have been waiting for all my life? Is he tricking me or just trying to take advantage of my vulnerabilities? Why is it usually so easy to be around him and I find myself telling him so many things I haven’t told anyone else? When will I finally meet the one I have been waiting for? Aquila, India

ANSWER: There is no one person who is destined to be with you. You determine who it is you want to be with and energetically draw those to you who allow you to fulfill your desires. No two humans ever match identically since each has freedom of choice to decide what to do from moment to moment. You are always changing; who you are, what you want, and what satisfies you are based upon the experiences you have.

A relationship is successful when the two parties share who they are and what their dreams are for the future. You should only listen to your inner feelings and not the thinking of family and friends. Look for a comfortable and loving connection. Since you are not identical, there will be times when you can’t stand something he is doing, but the same is being perceived by him about what you are thinking and doing.

Only you know if this is the one you have been waiting for. You are making the plans, deciding the requirements you seek, and calling the person to you. Stop putting so many obstacles in your own way. You are seeing only the aspects of him you can’t stand instead of seeing if you can work them out so you are both happy.

He loves you and enjoys being in your company. He would never do anything to hurt you. The idea you have that he is tricking you and working on your vulnerabilities does not come from inside you but from relatives who do not want you to be happy. Go with your feelings. If it feels good, see how you can make it even better. Communication is the key.