Why single status?

QUESTION: Masters, I always wonder whether or not my continuing state of being single is something that I have chosen in order to be available to someone at a certain time, or if it is something I could really change. I am torn between feeling as though there is a destined love relationship somewhere in my future and also wondering if I perhaps chose to remain single for a different reason. It does not seem to be in my control, though I admit that ultimately it must be! I have wonderful and loving friends but am often confused by the lack of romantic relationships in my life, and I appreciate any kind of insight you could give.                 ~Louisa, USA

ANSWER: This lifetime is all about the discovery of the various aspects of love. You are a very giving individual who can easily identify with others and their relationships. You see a romantic relationship as the ultimate expression of love when it really is not. It is possible to truly love another in a relationship only to the degree and extent that you are able to love yourself.

You were brought up believing that it was not right to be self-loving as that was selfish. You were taught to direct all your love outwardly. For this reason you do not know how to love yourself. Because you do not love yourself, any potential partner picks up an energy around you that says, “I don’t love myself.” Their response is, “If she doesn’t love herself there must be something wrong with her, so I’ll look for someone else.”

As you already know, you can change the pathway you are currently following using your freedom of choice. While this single status is one of your life-lessons, all you have to do is recognize it, work on a solution, and you will then experience the next step—a romantic relationship.

In a quiet state ask yourself what it is you do not like about yourself. Also find what you are hiding from. What is it you will not face? All these “ghosts” are scaring away romance. Banish the ghosts and welcome the gentlemen.