Working on a life lesson

QUESTION: Masters I’ve always had huge problems in finding something I’d love, meaning both people and work. I even have feared that I am not capable to love at all. So finding love has always been my only real interest and therefor I’ve always been trying to find something I’d really love, but never fully succeeded. Until now. For the last few years I have felt utter love towards someone with whom I can’t be in a relationship. We know each other only from a distance. Still, the weirdest thing is that this feeling seems to be mutual, which makes it even more new to me. Who is this soul to me, why did we choose this situation (living separately, but longing)? Am I too difficult and selfish a person to never be able to live with someone in peace and harmony, in a loving and sharing long term relationship? ~Hannah, Finland

ANSWER: Your major lesson for this lifetime is discovering all the aspects of love. Love is not just a romantic pairing with another; it is also the love of family, colleagues, associates, your path in life, and most importantly love of self. There are many layers to love, such as physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual.

One of the signs of love is being in total acceptance of all the phases of union with another, or in the case of self-love, accepting that everything that appears in your life does so for you to learn that which you desired.

The “love” you are experiencing at this time is composed of mental, emotional, and physical parts. Your thoughts convince you that this person is for you. You have an emotional reaction, a sense of giddiness, and warmth in your body whenever you think of or have contact with the person, which involves your physical body as well as your mind.

This soul is also trying to learn about love because of having been unfulfilled. You have created a co-dependence of essential learning. The situation of exploration is the reason you have met. Both of you are experiencing sensations of “love” for the first time.

You are not a difficult or selfish person, just one who is learning lessons. One problem you have is the intense expectation that your life can never be complete until you are in a loving and sharing relationship with another. You can love another only to the extent that you love yourself. If you do not love yourself you cannot love another, and therefore no other will present to you for the purpose of a union.

Get rid of your negativity concerning relations, learn to love the work you are doing on understanding yourself, and then manifest a partner for yourself.