Everybody has lessons
QUESTION: Masters, my brother was married to a woman who lied, cheated, and was a terrible mother and a cruel daughter in law to my parents. He separated from her, but is still blind to all the evil things she did and does. He found an honest lovely lady, who loves him, but he treats her with no respect. When anybody tries to tell him the true, he gets mad, crazy, hurtful, calling everybody fake and liars. We think his ex-wife has some kind of agreement with dark spirits to have that much control over him. It is like a thick wall that nobody can break. Is there anything we could do to get him free or the only thing we can do is to keep praying? Please, help us, my dream is to see my brother, my family and his children free from 25 years of abuse and lies. ~Marie, USA
ANSWER: Stop living in the past; be aware only of the present and use that to direct your energy. Condemning a person’s past actions makes you a very judgmental individual. Enlightenment is the process of forgoing judgment, which is an instrument of the ego. Try vesting yourself solely in evaluation.
A spiritual person sees nothing as right or wrong but merely the lessons other people choose to learn. You cannot convince people to accept your impression of something unless they choose to see your point of view. Many people do not like to admit they have been wrong about an issue, and they will fight your suggestions on principle alone.
Remember, every soul chooses its lessons, and those who share them have also chosen to partake in this scenario. Another’s lifestyle and lies can affect you only if you choose to let them. Ignore what has happened. Reach out to the children without demonstrating judgment. Make yourself available to talk to them about anything but their contact with their mother. They are individuals living their own lives.
As long as you do not constantly remind your brother of how you condemn his choices, he will be willing to talk to you. Speak of the weather, his job, your vacations, the kids’ lives. Be the one who buries the past and doesn’t constantly harp on it. Being reminded about the past is making it impossible for him to envision anything else in his new relationship.
There are no dark spirits involved in anyone’s life. There has been a tendency to choose negative energy over positive, but that is easy to change once it is discovered how pleasant positivity makes the environment.