Life changes and decisions
QUESTION: Masters I am married with two kids and I feel happy with so much joy and blessings in my life. Every day I wake up and try to be a better person in this world. Learning with the obstacles and accepting everything that happens to me. When I first met my husband, we were young and we used to be negative and selfish. But after some facts that impacted me so deeply I decided to change, now I see love in everywhere, in everyone, I really want to learn my lessons in this life. Then I look to my husband, he is also a better person but sometimes it seems that he wants to stay in a negative position about so many things. This makes me feel bad, tired, and hopeless. Please give me any advice. I love him but sometimes I see we are both going to opposite ways. ~Cnc, Brasil
ANSWER: Congratulations on all the successes with your journey. You have realized that people have freedom of choice to make the decisions that impact their life. The next big realization you see has been that no two people progress at exactly the same rate toward enlightenment.
Your husband clings to some of his old traits because it makes him comfortable with those in society with whom he has to deal. He is not as sensitive to positive and negative energy as you are. Negative energy is the default setting in third-dimensional ego judgment and he is just going along with “the boys.”
His way of looking at life can have an impact on you only if you allow it to. You have done nothing to encourage his choice so why do you feel bad, tired, and hopeless? These are not your decisions for life; accept that they are his and are what he needs right now at this time in his life. He is never going to be exactly like you or have the same feelings about a philosophy of living.
You both love each other, so the question becomes: can you put up with his outlook on life as long as it does not really affect you? Understand that his journey is different from yours, and just as having different racial or religious backgrounds does nothing to prevent a happy life, why should this?