People change as time goes on
QUESTION: Masters, I’m at a wedding, from my point of view, happy for 15 years. We have a couple of beautiful children. He was 13 years old and she was 6 years. I love my children too. In recent times, after we returned to live near her family, things have changed a lot. Expressed willingness to separate due to the negative with my wife started to look at life, she went into a depressive state and this has left me in an undecided way. My wife keeps saying “cannot bear to take care of our children”, “was not made for marriage” among other statements. I tell her to try to see the positive side of things, but to no avail. My intuition says that she is a good person, but I am seriously considering the possibility of leaving our marriage. Can we try again, changing away from her family? ~Gerson, Brazil
ANSWER: Your wife is making her choices based upon the pressures being placed on her by family and friends. She yearns to be able to “play” as she did when a little girl. She does not want to have any responsibilities for a husband or children. She is acting like a spoiled little child and her family thinks it is fine because they have her back with them again. You were never considered to be quite good enough for their daughter.
Her negativity and depression comes from those with whom she is now associating. None of them see the world as positive and they feed off each other’s negativity. It is almost as if they are having contests to see who can be the most negative. They are even gathering negative beings (discarnates) into their presence.
Just moving away from her family will not change the way she is acting at this time. She needs to want to be a wife and mother and not see it as drudgery. Underneath all the negativity is a good soul but it is buried quite deeply. It is impossible to get people to change the way they think or behave unless they want to change. Nothing you do will make her change.
The choice then becomes yours: put up with her under these conditions or move on. Your wedding is over, and a lot of choices have to be made by everyone to get it back to where it was.