Young love and sibling rivalry
QUESTION: Masters I have to ask you this thing: there is a man who loves me and I love him deeply, and I know that he is my soul mate. But he doesn’t realize that. We were together five months. I can´t forget him even though I have tried. Is there any possibility for me to be with him in future? Or should I just forget him? With him I have learn much about life. Are there any lessons left? The other question is about me and my sister. We are twins and always compete and have envy each other. What is the matter of this? ~Merja, Finland
ANSWER: First loves hold permanent positions in a person’s heart and memory. This man was the first who reached so deep into your heart that you convinced yourself he was “the one” and had to be a soul mate. He is not really a soul mate but just a soul you had made a contract with to open you to deep emotional love. He doesn’t see himself as a soul mate since he isn’t.
Five months is a minuscule amount of time in a lifetime. You can’t forget him because you do not want to forget him. You have created a fantasy life with him in the center, and you are afraid no one else can come close to your imagined life. There are many more men out there who will give you more experiences and be more of the sharing type. This man was a director who told you what to do, and when he got tired and bored, he just moved on.
He has opened you to relationships based on emotional love, and now you are ready to take responsibility for new choices. All souls have freedom of choice so it is within the realm of possibility that you may get together with this man again – but it will be totally different from the first time since you now understand a relationship better.
Decide what you want in a romance, compose affirmations creating an energy of love coming your way, and be open to whoever appears. Never settle for leftovers.
It is common for siblings to squabble over the things in their lives – particularly twins. You and your sister are so similar that what one has, the other wants the same or better. She was jealous that your beau chose you over her. You were more vulnerable and had lower expectations, so it was easier for him to date you rather than her.
You now have the lessons you learned from the union and are ahead of her in that regard. Talking is absolutely the best way to lessen envy and anger and to create love and an environment of sharing. Boyfriends come and go, but sisters are forever.