Illness as a lesson

QUESTION: Masters, husband of my sister was diagnosed with brain tumor, GBM grade four and got it removed surgically. Is it possible that he chose it himself or is this a life lesson for his immediate family and relatives. His family is now trying alternative medicines as doctors have told them that there is no cure for this as they obviously don’t want lose him and are extremely positive about it. How can anyone plan to cut short his journey on earth at such a crucial time when his family needs him most? ~PM, INDIA

ANSWER: This is a life lesson for all those involved with your brother-in-law. He chose this as a particular lesson in lack of control and acceptance of all possibilities. His choice of leaving at this time has nothing to do with the journeys of his family and friends. Many of them signed on to experience being abandoned, having guilt for an inability to be of help, and anger for his perceived selfishness in leaving. He is only responsible for the lessons he is learning in this lifetime.

The positive attitude that all members of the family are showing is another lesson. They are not going into the negative and giving up on possibilities. All things are possible when faith in oneself is involved. This situation has brought together this family like nothing else has ever done. This, too, is a lesson in co-operation and caring for others and not just oneself.

When your brother-in-law is ready to transition, it will be because he has finished the lessons he came to Earth to learn. The family and others will continue on with their lives, recognizing how much strength they have that they have never used before. Several have never taken responsibility for their own actions, relying on him to carry the whole burden. This is part of their continuing lessons to hold themselves up and take care of themselves. If he stayed they would never learn their own lessons.

A question must be asked of all involved: Who are they concerned with in this situation, him or themselves? This is a primary lesson. Can you only see how his illness is affecting you? Or are you concerned about what is the desired path for him? Lessons will continue to arise as the event unfolds further.