Women and motherhood

QUESTION: Masters, Motherhood seems to be the natural way for every woman. However, this does not happen to me. When I was in the right age, I preferred my work and studies. When I decided to try to get pregnant, and was an attempt on the basis of if have to be, will be. Today I am 41 years old, I had surgery a little while ago, at the risk of having to remove my uterus. My doctor insisted I froze some ovules, I did not because I just got divorced for the second time. I think if it had to happen, should have happened. Today I wonder, I’ve been mother someday? It was a good experience? I have contact with those who would have been my son or daughter? I have any chance of being a mother in this life? ~Adriana, Brasil

ANSWER: Your first statement is the conclusion that human society has imprinted on your kind, but motherhood is “the natural way” for women only in that men cannot carry and deliver babies. Every soul has freedom to choose all the experiences it has in each of its lifetimes. Choosing not to be a mother starts a series of lessons that are different from those of a soul in a female body who has chosen to be a mother.

Don’t let other people tell you what is right for you. When you attempted to get pregnant and did not, it had as much to do with the desires of your soul for the type of life you were living as anything else. You were undecided when you entered this life whether to have children or not, so you just went with the flow of the other lessons you undertook.

You have been a mother, and at times a father, in many past lives. The lifetimes were mostly pleasant. You worked with having the responsibility of raising and teaching little ones. It was not of primary importance in this life. You wanted to spend the time motherhood would have taken to get to know yourself better and to try different things that would have been difficult with and for a child.

It is possible to be a “mother” to children without being the biological source of their birth. If you desire the experience of carrying for others in this life, then adopt, marry someone with children, volunteer to help a child, or commit to a pet.

Since you had not determined to have children, you did not contract with any souls to come to be your children. There are no absolutes in a life. You have total freedom of choice to change any plans you made before coming. Just use your intention to manifest what you wish to experience.