Confusion about self-love
QUESTION: Masters, in my childhood my other grandma was the most important person in my life, for some reason I always loved her more than my parents. She passed away when I was four, 30 years ago, still I feel she is watching me. Is she one of my guides? Also, I’ve had difficult times in the past but for a few years I’ve felt happy and getting all I ask in a spiritual way, I’m very thankful for that! I would still love to get a family: do I have my heart open enough or should I work more to the direction of unconditional love and try to forget myself more? ~Ilona, Finland
ANSWER: Your grandmother is a soul mate of yours. You have spent many lifetimes together and she is always watching over you. Your continued energetic connection to her makes it easy to love her. Your difficulty is that spending so much of your love on one who is at Home depletes the amount you have for those who are sharing this active life with you.
The journey you are on is one of self-discovery and self-love. You should first have unconditional love for yourself and everything that defines your life, rather than transferring it to others. You can only love another individual to the degree and extent that you love yourself. Despise yourself and you will always find things wrong with others.
To find you attractive, a lover must see that you are capable of loving life and creating a happy environment. You have plenty of time to attract a lover with whom to produce a family. You know how to manifest your desires because you have succeeded in the past. Concentrate on perfecting a love that you can share with a partner and little ones. That does not mean loving yourself less.
You can definitely not forget yourself and still project to another that you are that person’s right one. As an example of how happy you will make your lover, you must show the person how happy you are with yourself and your abilities. Start seeing a new life for yourself that includes a family. Put your intention into producing this scenario and it will come into being.