Cutting loose from conflict

QUESTION: Masters, last year I made the decision to sever ties with my husband. After so many conflicts in relationships and family, Reiki and teachings of the masters were to acknowledge the support that I lived with a person with serious psychological and spiritual problems. However, I still have nightmares about this person and do not feel good to see him. As if there was a negative energy so as to cause chills. Although I am fine with me, there have appeared two committed people wanting to cause trouble. The question is: why do these conflict situations prevail if I am struggling to maintain a harmony with the universe? ~Aline, Brazil

ANSWER: Your struggle for harmony is still being done in fear. You are holding on to the belief that your ex still has a control over you. You must accept that he does have problems but they have absolutely nothing to do with you. You have not let loose of the ties he had over you. A person can control you, cause fear in you, and create nightmares for you only if you allow it. You have to believe the situation is still true in order to be affected.

It is time to feel the strength that you have within. You were strong enough to leave him; now you can be strong enough to be in the same place with him—seeing him for the injured person that he is. No matter what he says, or tries to imply to you, it cannot hurt you unless you accept his words as true. But why would you accept the words of an unbalanced person as being true?

The other people are coming into your life because, since you have not released completely the hold your ex has on you, the universe thinks you still want to experience this type of behavior, so it sends more of it your way. Say “cease and desist.” Tell everyone you no longer have to deal with this type of activity and walk on by, ignoring what these people have to say.

Begin your harmony with only positive energy in your thinking and being. When anything that is negative or that troubles you appears in your life, find a positive aspect and build up the positive energy. If some negative people try to interfere with your happy world, just say to them you no longer need such negativity in your life and move on. The choices are yours.

When it rains, you can be unhappy that you are getting wet or you can be happy that the flowers will soon be in bloom. When it is cold outside, you can complain or you can be grateful you get to wear the new coat you purchased. It is all in the way you look at the world.