Telling you what you want to hear
QUESTION: I’d like to ask you about an old friend I met last summer. I feel him very similar to me and my thoughts. So says he. I had a narcissistic husband before and now I’m very concerned about this new friendship. Am I hysteric for nothing? What are his interests in me? And his marriage? Someone told me beforehand I will meet him, and that happened. I’m amazed about all this what is happening. Still learning something big…? ~Mari, Finland
ANSWER: You have trouble interpreting what people are like and what they want from you because, from the start, you are so busy trying to please them. You desire to be loved and you think that if you do everything that the other person wants they will love you unconditionally. You have yet to feel any of this love because you can love, and be loved by another, only to the extent that you love yourself. And, simple fact, you do not feel you are good enough to deserve love until you have satisfied the other. You do not love yourself.
This “old friend” does seem to be similar to you and interpret things as you do because you share similar past experiences that now look very nice to you. It is easy to remember, of the past, exactly what you wish. You are right to be a little hysterical because you are being played by this man. You are a game in which he can indulge without commitment. He is telling you what he thinks you expect to her from someone who truly cares for you.
He is married and at this time does not have any intention of ending that union. His interest in you is as a conquest. He will devote as much time to you as he can, to get you to be his favorite toy, but when he tires, he will move on to yet another challenge.
His energy is very strong and could be seen getting closer to you. But other energy will be drawn to you if you except possibilities and bring to you the type of person who will be kind and non-threatening. Use your energy to manifest a connection with a soul mate who desires to be with you as much as you do with them. Don’t settle for someone who comes around only to satisfy their needs. Create your utopia.