Scared of living alone
QUESTION: Masters, my husband and I are married for almost 25 years. We have had many ups and downs and two times we got almost divorced. But when we were at that point I was so scared of living without him I that I went back. However I find it very difficult to be in contact with him and I feel often very lonely in our marriage. Can you please advise me? We did two years of therapy together. ~Inge, Holland
ANSWER: Often souls come into human form to see how long it will take them to accept their own powers. All souls are broken off from Source energy and have the same fantastic properties, but some don’t want to accept that fact. They will generally start out with a life where they have been taken care of by others and have not had to assume responsibility for their own actions.
In the beginning they believe this is just how their life is supposed to be and that there is nothing they can do about it. If you don’t think you have choices, then you don’t have any. You must be able to see what else you can be doing and that you can take care of yourself, or you will be convinced that you can’t.
You had feelings for your husband at one time but you have both changed and now have very little in common. He is happy having you take care of the house while he provides the finances. The therapy didn’t help very much because it did not address the real problem, and that is how you feel about yourself and your need to be taken care of.
Your degree of self-confidence is the answer to all your problems. The fear is that you will fail in any effort to live without your husband. If you truly feel that you will never be able to separate from him, just get used to the fact that you will continue to have a lonely, loveless existence. If you accept that you have the same abilities of every other soul, then start creating the life you desire.
Take some courses where you have to depend on yourself for their completion. Volunteer at a day-care, museums, or senior centers, where others will be dependent on you. Try on responsibility and see how it feels.