Life choices
QUESTION: Masters, my husband and I have been trying to conceive for almost 4 years. My husband has been diagnosed with severe male infertility and our only hope is very expensive fertility treatment, according to the doctors. I also really battle to lose weight which is stopping us from having the treatment. Did we choose not to have children in this life? Can my husband be healed? In a past-life regression, I recalled my child being stolen from me; could this be causing a block? Why is it so difficult for me to lose weight which stops me from living my best life? ~Debbie, South Africa
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ANSWER: Your situation is all about the life lessons the two of you chose for your time together. Your husband wanted to experience the trials of feeling “less than a man” because of his fertility problems. In the world, masculinity is often determined by procreation abilities. This affects what you think about yourself and what others think about you as well. It is society’s judgment and has nothing to do with a man’s productivity or self-worth, and definitely nothing to do with the magnificence of his soul. The situation does force people to determine how they evaluate their existence—or, if they are spiritual, how they can find the unconditional love inside that makes them feel complete.
Your lessons center on your self-image notions. Is my weight preventing me from being something that I choose to be? Why am I not able to lose? Is it a lack of discipline? Or do I not love myself enough to be able to produce results? You have hidden behind your weight in the past to run away from unpleasant situations, and now that you don’t need it, you are not sure how to proceed. One way would be with hypnotherapy or self-hypnosis.
Your past-life regression showed you a life in which a child was stolen from you. This brings up the feelings of being taken advantage of, betrayed, and cheated out of something rightfully yours. That energy did carry into this life—but not the energy of having no children.
It is possible for each of you to resolve the issues, which could then permit conception. Examine all your motives and experiences surrounding this and see if the expense and heartache for something that may not be accomplished is worthwhile. You would both make terrific parents. There are a lot of children out there who need good homes. What would you think of putting all that “possible” energy into a sure thing and starting to be parents sooner rather than later or never?