Needing energy from others

QUESTION: Masters, can you please discuss and elaborate on this situation? My co-practitioner (meditation) likes to control and lead people into doing work his way. He will lose his temper if they don’t pay attention and follow his way; he becomes violent and threatening. I’ve read a book on this behaviour. It said it is because his divine energy is drying up and he is becoming insecure and frightened (not enough practice). In order to overcome this he has to lead people into listening and paying attention to him. Thus, he becomes stronger and leaves the other weak after stealing their divine energy from them. This is how conflicts and wars start. Is he becoming a spiritual vampire? ~Wu Ming, Singapore

ANSWER: Two things are occurring in this situation. Your associate is becoming a practitioner of the ego and he is aiding this first quest by practicing energy vampirism. He came into this life with a lot of lessons to learn. He pushed them aside so he might focus on meditation, wherein he sought all the answers without having to do any of the work. Everything is starting to fall down around him because the lessons are now constantly “in his face” and will not allow him to ignore them.

Lessons are accomplished by dealing with emotional issues within Earth’s duality (negative and positive arena). To sustain the contrasting possibilities, the ego, which is judgment, must be used. When one exists in a judgmental world everything is either right or wrong. Fear permeates the experiences, making them noticeable so they may be dealt with.

Control is a main lesson, and when he does not feel in control he attempts to seize it any way he can. When others do not play his game of master and slave he strikes out in anger and fear. Some he seeks to control are out of the judgment cycle and do not need to argue with him. They decide that they do not need to go into an energy battle with him, and he gets no satisfaction when a fight does not ensue. This is when he loses his control. Those who engage in his battle get their energy taken and absorbed by him, strengthening him and weakening them.

His divine energy is not drying up because the soul essence does not leave you. What happens is it gets so covered over with ego-driven situations that it is unreachable until the garbage is cleaned away. He is still an enlightened, unconditionally loving soul under all that ego, but he has a lot of housecleaning to do before he can shine again.