In transition
QUESTION: Masters, I feel as if I do not belong to any dimension fully…as if I am straddling both the third dimension and the dimensions above. Doubts now involve my interactions with my husband who is very loving and supportive, but there is a distance being created by our different spiritual beliefs. He is an amazing, loving person, and many times I find myself feeling guilty for no longer carrying the same affection and attention towards him that I used to. I feel myself pulling away from the entirety of my “old” life. Sometimes I wonder if I am getting too caught up in my own spiritual growth and mistakenly ignoring the familial responsibilities that I have to others. What if I am so focused on my own growth and evolution that I hurt all of them in the process? And most recently, doubts about why I am even focusing on spiritual growth so much are coming into my mind. And even more, am I using the label of spiritual growth and discovery to actually hide a deeper problem with my husband that involves other issues, possibly not even related to spiritual growth at all? ~A., Singapore
ANSWER: When you walk the spiritual path, you do straddle the third and higher dimensions. You have to have some contact with the third because you still inhabit a physical body and need physical things to nourish, clothe, and care for it. You are in the higher dimensions because you choose to reside as much as possible in the unconditional love found there.
When you begin the transition into more and more time spent outside the duality of the third, you leave behind those who choose only to reside in the arena of the ego where they can “prove” themselves to others through constant comparisons. Judgment rules here. Above the third, judgment falls away and all that is used is a sense of evaluation whether you need to re-experience an act or if you have learned all you need to know from it.
The speed of growth has to be an individual decision. A soul comes into a body to learn about its essence of unconditional love and eventually to bring past wisdom in to use in the current life. If you ask those stuck in the third, they will tell you that you must stay with them. Your ego will assert that you need to remain because you have obligations there. On a spiritual level, the only obligations that you have are to an understanding of self.
As people get more education, they are less interested in spending their time with those who do not understand the concepts they spent so much time and effort to learn—they have to move on. But, as always, a soul has complete freedom of choice.