QUESTION: Masters, is the father of my children, from whom I’m now divorced and with a woman, in my soul group? The reason I ask is because you say in Peter Watson Jenkins and Toni Winninger’s book, “Exploring Reincarnation” that we often choose our soul mates to have negative experiences with. I can’t believe he and I are from the same area or group on the Other Side as I see him as very dark and myself as light!! However, at the same time the experience I had with him was so negative I couldn’t imagine entrusting an unknown soul to experience the hell we went through together. I may not have survived to experience it. Please tell me! ~Stephanie, USA
ANSWER: He is a member of your soul group. Who else would you trust with such an intense job? When you are both back at Home you will reunite as unconditionally loving pals. There is no negativity on the Other Side, only a rehashing of what you were able to allow others to experience – per their request, of course.
Once souls enter into the Earth plane, they are completely in the influence of the duality with all its negativity. Your ex portrayed the ultimate negative, horrid person who helped you to understand that you did not have to endure his actions and that you no longer would permit him to dictate to you. With this individual you were able to recognize your power and strength. Without his assistance you would not be able to be aware of your abilities to take care of yourself and your children.
You are still holding on to your hatred of his portrayal in this life. Forgive yourself for staying so long in the dysfunctional marriage – you still blame part of your distress on the abuse you didn’t recognize but continued to endure. Accept that he played a part you had signed up for, thank him for his great acting, love yourself for being able to let all the hurt go, and create a fantastic life for the rest of this incarnation. You owe it to yourself.
You can never relive a portion of your life and make any changes. Once it is past, it can only be used as an example of what you wish to try again or never do again. Living in the present, in each moment as it occurs, allows you to see what your choices are and immediately create that which you desire. Don’t spend time worrying about the future because you can’t influence it unless you are the only person involved. Each additional party is another possible change that can happen before the future arrives.
Always be aware of the things around you; that gives you the freedom to choose what will affect you.